What Men Really Want From Their Wives (Part 1) – Stella Damasus Aboderin

Now we know that the one thing men cannot live without apart from money is sex. In this forum I really don't care where anyone is from or what religion you belong to, I will be as raw and honest as possible.


Our men love sex to the maximum, and we know that for a fact. So how come when we are dating them we are so willing to give them what they want even though we know it is wrong? The first few years of marriage is filled with sex almost five times a day in different parts of the house and at odd hours. But after a few years we start to back down and make excuses.

We start to see it as a chore and then we let them know that we are really not interested in them physically.  Wow, what happened to the lady fox, the hot chic, and the sexy cat that he got married to?

What happened to the babe that would understand the signal he would give and immediately comply? What happened to those times when he would race home to his sexy, energetic and ever ready wife who would make him feel wanted?
Stella Damasus, Nigerian actor and film producer, speaks at an event launching the gender-based sexual violence exhibition "Wounded to Death" in the World Bank Headquarters' Preston Auditorium on May 22, 2014 in Washington, DC. AFP PHOTO/Mandel NGAN (Photo credit should read MANDEL NGAN/AFP via Getty Images)
Stella Damasus, Nigerian actor and film producer, speaks at an event launching the gender-based sexual violence exhibition "Wounded to Death" in the World Bank Headquarters' Preston Auditorium on May 22, 2014 in Washington, DC. AFP PHOTO/Mandel NGAN (Photo credit should read MANDEL NGAN/AFP via Getty Images)

I know that most of you will say “I have kids who wear me out, I have work that drains me, I got older, my sex drive has gone under, I have a headache” to the point that the man will need to get a visa at your "embassy" to visit his favourite place in the World?

When you do this to him, how do you expect him to come home every day to look at your tired, grumpy and unfriendly face?
How would you expect him to come home to you complaining about the plumber, your child that was being rude, and your boss that gave you a hard time? NOOOOOOO please!!

At that point he wants you to take him to that special place were the sky is so wonderful and turn his brain around to the point that all you say will sound like sweet music to his ears. These men are human beings who go through their own challenges, half of which you don’t even know because they are trying to save you from all the stress.

What annoys me the most is when we women start to complain and nag about the men not having time for us, and how they no longer find us attractive anymore and that's where the suspicion starts. That's when the saying comes, “If he is not getting it from me someone else must be giving it to him”.

I don't encourage cheating at all. In fact it goes against what the Bible teaches no matter what. I will not also judge anyone who has been caught in a web he is not proud of for one reason or the other. I believe that if we are truly sorry for our sins and we go to God with the determination not to sin again, he is merciful and will forgive us.

In all of this I know that all men are not beasts, neither are they evil because we married them. I also know that men do not get married and carry it at the back of their minds that they must cheat. That's not how it works, please. There are things that we do that trigger thing in their brains and these things drive them to do things that they really would not have done. Most of us believe it when they say men don’t think with their brains but they think with their penis. I beg to differ because they know what they are doing, and I don’t see how the penis can have a brain that will control the whole body. There is always something that sparks off in the brain that sends the signal to the penis.

You may or may not agree with me but this is what I choose to believe. Most men we married are not so evil and dubious, some may be cowards but cast your mind back to the kind of man you chose to marry and see if there were traces of that character or not.

Watch out for Part 2 of this article.

Take care of yourselves and remember that I love you all.

Original article by Stella Damasus Aboderin

Adopted and edited by:

Tapiwa Zuze – www.tapiwazuze.com
Stella Damasus, Nigerian actor and film producer, speaks at an event launching the gender-based sexual violence exhibition "Wounded to Death" in the World Bank Headquarters' Preston Auditorium on May 22, 2014 in Washington, DC. AFP PHOTO/Mandel NGAN (Photo credit should read MANDEL NGAN/AFP via Getty Images)
Stella Damasus, Nigerian actor and film producer, speaks at an event launching the gender-based sexual violence exhibition "Wounded to Death" in the World Bank Headquarters' Preston Auditorium on May 22, 2014 in Washington, DC. AFP PHOTO/Mandel NGAN (Photo credit should read MANDEL NGAN/AFP via Getty Images)


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