Expensive competition destroying my marriage

I am a 37-year-old man, married with two children. I love my wife with all my heart but she has no spine she cannot make decisions of her own anofuririka nhando. Her priorities are upside down, izvozvo zvakuita kuti tiburane. I am a man of very few words nekuti ndine hasha, ndine chiwoko chegudo, ndinorova asi mai vekwangu havanzwe.

I know competition is good but it should never overstretch you. I will be open with you ka lifestyle kedu hakasi kezera redu. We live in a very beautiful house but we are renting. We pay through the nose and now we are feeling the pinch. I suggested kuti tiende ku high-density toronga mari dzedu tozotenga yeduwo imba. She looked at me scornfully and said ghetto mentality inokunetsa.

Takuvara nezvikwereti, zvimwe zviri very unnecessary. Vanoita competition kubasa kwavo about everything. Tinosvikepi tichiita hupenyu hwekuvavarira kuti tionekwe? I want to be true to myself and sleep peacefully. I am prepared to go back to the drawing board and start afresh. Kuita drive mota yechikwereti, kurarama nechikwereti kubank, kuchena nekudya zvechikwereti, no I give up, handichada. Ndomuudza sei kuti tinzwanane nhai?
Expensive competition destroying my marriage
Response
Thank you for reading our column and thank you for acknowledging your love for your wife, this is good. Mazuva ano kungopinda munyaya chete tisina kumbonzwa zverudo. Yes in life we need to give priority to bread and butter issues. First in your case it really doesn't make sense to rent an expensive house yet you are struggling. Why don't you look for reasonable and descent accommodation mochengetedza mari muchideredza zvikwereti?

Don't be forced to live above your means, competition is only good when it's healthy. Garai pasi sababa namai muonesane kuti life is what you make it, life is about you not about them. Ko iwe zvawave kutoda kudada nekurova mukadzi sekunge kurima, zvinorevei? It's a punishable offence, it's criminal to be abusive to your wife.

You need to communicate with each other, you need to operate at the same wave length to avoid marital problems.

Hupenyu hausi hwekuonererwa ndehwekurarama murufaro nemune zvinokukodzerai. Forget about artificial lifestyles, mharai and plan accordingly.

Don't give up, stick to the fight until you win. Mukabvuma kuti maomerwa zvinokubatsirai mukugadzirisa. Live within your means. If you can't solve this problem between the two of you then get help from a professional counsellor. Good luck. Sunday Mail


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