Gossip is unconstrained and often derogatory conversation about other people, and can involve betraying a confidence and spreading sensitive information or hurtful judgments.
Research shows that people who gossip the most have very high levels of anxiety. They are generally not particularly popular because they cannot be trusted. Spreading private information or negative judgments is painful to others and reflects poorly on the gossiper.Why do people gossip?
1. To feel superior: People who don’t feel good about themselves temporarily feel better when they judge others negatively.
2. Out of boredom: When people can’t generate interesting discussions based on knowledge or ideas, gossip can rouse people’s interest.
3. Out of envy: People gossip in order to hurt those whose popularity, talents, or lifestyle they envy.
4. To feel like part of the group: People gossip to feel as though they belong to the group. Yet, when acceptance is based on being “in on a secret,” it is not based on a person’s identity, but on exclusion or maliciousness.
5. For attention: A person gets to be the center of attention temporarily while divulging a piece of gossip. Yet, spreading gossip or rumors is like buying attention; it’s temporary and has little foundation.
5. Out of anger or unhappiness: A person can derive a sense of retribution with disparaging remarks.
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The key is to look at one’s intent in discussing other people and relationships.
Is the intent to understand human nature and improve one’s quality of life and relationships?
Or: Is the intent to temporarily feel superior or get attention by disparaging others?
Responses to unwelcome gossip: Let’s suppose that somebody is gossiping mercilessly about Jane. It’s important not to feed the gossiper with curiosity, agreement and further questions. It’s best to simply change the subject.
“I notice that you talk about Jane a lot. I’m curious why she interests you so much?”
“Let’s take a look at it from Jane’s side.”
“I am more interested in what you are up to.”
“Let’s talk about something more positive or decide what we’re going to do this afternoon.”
“I feel uncomfortable listening to negative judgments about people unless we figure out how to help them.”
Conclusion: Gossiping shows others the gossiper’s insecurity and mean spiritedness. It also leaves everyone involved feeling as though they’ve just eaten a bad apple. Ultimately, insight into the intricacies of human relations and behavior is more interesting, uplifting, and enlightening than one-dimensional judgments and rumors.
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