Mistake 1: S@x Starts in the Bedroom
Men may turn on like a light, but for women, arousal doesn’t happen so fast, says s@x therapist Ian Kerner, PhD.
Pave the way during the day by hugging, kissing, and holding hands. Have some fun together, and show you appreciate her.
Feeling safe and secure in the relationship is key for a woman to really let loose during s@x, Kerner says. A long hug can go further than you’d think. “Hugging for 30 seconds stimulates oxytocin, the hormone in women that creates [a] sense of connection and trust.”
Mistake 2: Assume You Know What She Wants
“Just as many women are faking orgasm today as 20 or 30 years ago,” Kerner says. So, if she’s not enjoying herself, you might not know it.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions like “How does this feel?” or “Do you want something different?”
In other words, ask for directions.
Mistake 3: Stick to Your Plan
Don’t think that “if it worked the first three times, it will work the next three times,” says s@x therapist Sari Cooper, LCSW.
What turns her on may depend on her mood, and where she is in her monthly cycle. “Perhaps her nipples are more sensitive or her genitals are less tingly,” Cooper adds.
Pay attention to your partner, says psychologist Lonnie Barbach, PhD. “Try different things and she how she responds.”
When you find something that works, linger on it. Women often complain that men move on to the next thing just as they really start to enjoy an activity.
Mistake 4: Keep It Strictly Physical
Expand your idea of foreplay. Some men “focus on physical stimulation and often ignore mental stimulation,” Kerner says.
While men get stirred up by what they see, “women fantasize a lot during s@x as part of [the] process of arousal.” Join in — share a fantasy or a s@xy memory.
Mistake 5: Expect Intercourse to Give Her an Org@sm
For 80% of women, intercourse alone won’t do the trick. Why not? Most s@x positions don’t directly stimulate the clitoris.
There are other ways to pleasure her. “Women orgasm much more consistently from oral s@x than from intercourse,” Kerner says. Also, try s@x with the woman on top, or a vibrator made for couples to use during s@x. “Men should feel comfortable, not threatened, with s@x toys,” he says.
To help her hit the high note when you do have s@x, take time to get her going before you make your entrance. “The closer women are when they start intercourse, the more likely they are to have an orgasm,” Barbach says.
Mistake 6: Skip the Seduction
Women like to be seduced. “Seduction is as important as, or sometimes more important than, technique,” Cooper says.
It helps to know what kind of turn-on your partner likes, whether it’s oral, visual, or mental, she says. “Does your partner like it when you talk dirty over the phone or text? Trace your finger slowly up her chest? Flirt with her at a bar?”
Also, if you like what you see, say so. “Let a woman know how desirable she is,” Barbach says.
Mistake 7: Focus on Ringing the Bell
Most women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, but it’s more complex than you may think.
Some men “don’t understand the anatomy of the clitoris,” Cooper says. It’s more than the small “button” you can see. Its nerve endings spread throughout the vulva and inside the vagina. All are potential pleasure points worth exploring.
“You can go back and forth,” Cooper says. Paying too much attention to the glans, at the top of the vulva, can take away from pleasure for some women. It’s so sensitive, that too much stimulation can hurt.
Men may turn on like a light, but for women, arousal doesn’t happen so fast, says s@x therapist Ian Kerner, PhD.
Pave the way during the day by hugging, kissing, and holding hands. Have some fun together, and show you appreciate her.
Feeling safe and secure in the relationship is key for a woman to really let loose during s@x, Kerner says. A long hug can go further than you’d think. “Hugging for 30 seconds stimulates oxytocin, the hormone in women that creates [a] sense of connection and trust.”
 |
| Must Read - S@x Mistakes Men Make |
“Just as many women are faking orgasm today as 20 or 30 years ago,” Kerner says. So, if she’s not enjoying herself, you might not know it.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions like “How does this feel?” or “Do you want something different?”
In other words, ask for directions.
Mistake 3: Stick to Your Plan
Don’t think that “if it worked the first three times, it will work the next three times,” says s@x therapist Sari Cooper, LCSW.
What turns her on may depend on her mood, and where she is in her monthly cycle. “Perhaps her nipples are more sensitive or her genitals are less tingly,” Cooper adds.
Pay attention to your partner, says psychologist Lonnie Barbach, PhD. “Try different things and she how she responds.”
When you find something that works, linger on it. Women often complain that men move on to the next thing just as they really start to enjoy an activity.
Mistake 4: Keep It Strictly Physical
Expand your idea of foreplay. Some men “focus on physical stimulation and often ignore mental stimulation,” Kerner says.
While men get stirred up by what they see, “women fantasize a lot during s@x as part of [the] process of arousal.” Join in — share a fantasy or a s@xy memory.
Mistake 5: Expect Intercourse to Give Her an Org@sm
For 80% of women, intercourse alone won’t do the trick. Why not? Most s@x positions don’t directly stimulate the clitoris.
There are other ways to pleasure her. “Women orgasm much more consistently from oral s@x than from intercourse,” Kerner says. Also, try s@x with the woman on top, or a vibrator made for couples to use during s@x. “Men should feel comfortable, not threatened, with s@x toys,” he says.
To help her hit the high note when you do have s@x, take time to get her going before you make your entrance. “The closer women are when they start intercourse, the more likely they are to have an orgasm,” Barbach says.
Mistake 6: Skip the Seduction
Women like to be seduced. “Seduction is as important as, or sometimes more important than, technique,” Cooper says.
It helps to know what kind of turn-on your partner likes, whether it’s oral, visual, or mental, she says. “Does your partner like it when you talk dirty over the phone or text? Trace your finger slowly up her chest? Flirt with her at a bar?”
Also, if you like what you see, say so. “Let a woman know how desirable she is,” Barbach says.
 |
| Must Read - S@x Mistakes Men Make |
Most women need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, but it’s more complex than you may think.
Some men “don’t understand the anatomy of the clitoris,” Cooper says. It’s more than the small “button” you can see. Its nerve endings spread throughout the vulva and inside the vagina. All are potential pleasure points worth exploring.
“You can go back and forth,” Cooper says. Paying too much attention to the glans, at the top of the vulva, can take away from pleasure for some women. It’s so sensitive, that too much stimulation can hurt.
Welcome To Oudney Patsika's Blog: Getting Your Message Heard in a Noisy World: In today’s media-driven, distracted culture, your message must be amplified to reach a larger audience.
Contact Us through the Chat with WhatsApp widget below.
.jpg "Sona Solar Zimbabwe")
