Sunday, 10 June 2018

I Married Early To Escape Torture From Mum, Now My Husband Mistakenly Calls Me His Secret Girlfriend's Name ... I Need Help!

Dear reader I am so so sad.

I cry everyday. My husband does not treat me fine anymore, in fact he does not even have my time anymore. Its best to find anonymous person to confide in rather than family members that will laugh at me for my problems. 

I am a 26 year old lady married for five years with two kids and one other way. Since the onset of this third pregnancy I became a totally unhappy person cause of the way husband treats me. I am also an undergraduate presently in level 200 . 

Dear reader my husband now keeps a side chick to whom he has obviously shifted his attention and pocket to. He made sure I have no source of income except him. Whenever I managed to save little money and start small business this man purposely destroyed it. (This has been going on for a long time.) He has now stopped me from any mini-business. 

I am just here sitting down doing nothing like a coward. He just derives joy seeing me miserable. The last time I made my hair was many weeks ago. Whenever we have an argument he will not give me money for transport to school and whenever I managed to transport myself to school, there is no food for me at school that day. 
I Married Early To Escape Torture From Mum, Now My Husband Mistakenly Calls Me His Secret Girlfriend's Name ... I Need Help!
It comes to a point he stops me from going to school missing lectures and tests. 

Dear reader this man is frustrating my life ... why why why!! I am still young and he is keeping concubine, it's just five years of marriage and he is not even anything close to rich. We are just managing and now he is squandering his hard earned penny on another woman. 

I am so restless in this pregnancy. I need help. My mom clearly told me there is no place for me in her home if I leave my matrimony. She is the only one I have since my blessed Grandma passed on. (Crying bitterly). 

My children are the only thing that makes me smile. This is just a summary of what I am going through.

Sorry my write up is not properly arranged. 

Please help a disturbed, troubled young woman. 

I am too young to be going through all this and the worst part is having no one to talk to. I don't keep friends cos he won't allow me. My mum and I have no form of bond cos she did not raised me. I was raised by her mother my grandmother (if my grandma was alive, I won't be troubled by any problems ... cos she is truly there to support me in all forms.) 

She was my confidant, my friend, my role model ... but the cold hands of death snatched her from me. I can't stop crying.. 

Dear reader! Please help me in any way you can. I am so sad, sometimes I feel like taking my life.. sometimes I feel like running away to start life again but run to where? I can't live without my children, I can't ... please reader, just do something. I wish I can physically see you to cry on your laps, I just need someone to pour out my hear to ... someone to pat my back and tell me I will be fine ...!

Dear reader marriage is difficult. 

I don't see myself continue with it. I have no where to go. My mum and dad separated since I was 3, and my Grandma took me and raised. 

I hardly saw my dad while growing up may be once or twice in a year. I don't want same fate for my children that is why I still want to be in this marriage. This man will never let me have custody of my children if we ever separate. 

Where am I even going to go? 
No work, no money, no support (especially emotional one). 
I am sick and tired of this life.

The first year my mum and sister in-law paid. And then I won scholarship for the remaining years. He wants me to be a stay at home mother giving birth every year. (This third pregnancy entered by chance cos contraceptives failed me.) I only buy the pills when I have money, and I took them secretly. He will never give me money to buy pills never.

He beat me only once and I made sure I reported him to his whole family members. His mother supported him. But his sisters made sure he regretted that, hence why he doesn't beat me again. But he is very aggressive. He pushes me away, that is the highest he does now or tries to strangle me, but not beating . His two sisters are very nice but you know I have to respect myself and not constantly complaining of their brother to them.

He recently started his PhD program, that is where he went wild with women.

The side chic is confirmed. One smallie undergraduate. He even mistakenly calls me her name sometimes and that alone tear me apart.

You know those kind of them that are manipulative, domineering and wants to keep their wives in the house to be making babies alone and never ever have a say in their lives. His sister had to intervene before he allowed me to start a degree program.

I just hope this scholarship board keeps their promise, if not I am doomed ... cos he will make sure no one pays my tuition.

Sorry for my long write ups. I am just full of issues and I need to let them out


Thanks reader. 

You are free to post it on your blog as long as I remain anonymous to them. 


Please help a helpless young mother. 
I am so so unhappy. 
Sometimes I found myself talking aloud to myself while walking on the street. 
Is this not not one of the early signs of madness? 
I am fasting as well and can't even eat once it's time to break my fast. 

And my husband does not even care. I so much pity this baby in my womb and my other two children. I got married at a tender age of 20 to escape tortures of my mother (I moved in with her to the city after high school) Now I am even facing the worst forms of torture from my husband, a man that promised to love, care and stand by me is now my nightmare. 

Oh Dear reader if only I can put in words how I really feel ... Anonymous Post!


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